True beauty goes beyond just having a pretty face.
There are certain qualities that naturally enhance a woman’s attractiveness—but only if you recognize and embrace them. As women, we already have a unique and captivating beauty from within.
While makeup techniques and stylish outfits can add to our appearance, they can’t truly elevate our presence if our mindset and attitude don’t align. After all, much of attraction is based on behavior and the energy we exude.
In this blog post, I’ll be talking about the first things men notice in a woman and what they find most attractive. I believe that as women, we should feel attractive and confident first and foremost for ourselves—but also for men. It’s helpful to be aware of these details so you can make sure they’re on point!
So before diving into another glow-up guide, take a look at these 8 powerful habits that will help you stay effortlessly attractive just by the way you carry yourself!
Similar Topics:
- 5 Self Care Habits & How To Boost Your Confidence
- How To Be Irresistible To A Man Thanks To Feminine Energy
- How to Make Men Chase You, Even When You’re in a Couple
How To Be More Attractive:
For starters, there are so many ways to look good, but ultimately, I will be sharing a list of things that men find attractive in a woman. When I decided to find a husband, I became interested in the topic of dating and attractiveness. And I noticed a common pattern: women often think about how to dress or how to be attractive from a woman’s perspective. They forget that if we want to attract the opposite sex, we need to understand that men think differently from women. The same goes for men—often, I see my male colleagues focusing on things that don’t actually matter much to women.
This list will be very visual, but let’s face it—men are more visual than us, women. Their instincts push them to choose a healthy partner based on appearance. But the good news is that men love all types of women. So even if you don’t fit the conventional beauty standard, you can still find your perfect husband if you understand the key principles I’m about to share.
We also need to remember that we live in a society with rules, and if we want to be successful, we need to play smart within those rules.
So, here is a short list of things that men find attractive in a woman:
- A beautiful smile – Your smile plays a huge role in how people perceive you. Develop a self-care routine that includes taking care of your teeth and visiting the dentist regularly. Show off your beautiful smile, and you’ll make men’s hearts melt.
- Healthy, long, and shiny hair – Healthy hair signals a healthy partner for potential offspring. That’s how evolutionary biology works!
- Clear, glowing skin – Acne-free, healthy-looking skin enhances your attractiveness. Taking care of your skin is essential.
- A pleasant scent – Good hygiene is attractive. Smelling good leaves a lasting impression.
- A healthy body – Get into the habit of exercising regularly. A fit and healthy body not only looks good but also boosts your confidence.
- Your eyes – Enhance your natural beauty by choosing makeup shades that complement your skin tone.
- Confidence – The way you carry yourself is incredibly attractive. Confidence can make a huge difference in how others perceive you.
- Wearing red – Studies have shown that women wearing red are perceived as more attractive to men than those who don’t. The same applies to men wearing bold colors and even to same-sex attraction.
Let’s get started!
1. Your beautiful smile.
So, let’s jump straight into number one. This doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the most important thing men look for, but a smile is incredibly significant to them—like, really important. It’s something that instantly connects them to you and makes them feel like you bring positive energy into their life.
Of course, some men are drawn to more mysterious or serious women who don’t smile often. But the majority find a beautiful smile incredibly attractive. In fact, sometimes a woman doesn’t have to be conventionally beautiful; if she has an attractive smile, that alone can make her stand out. I hope that makes sense.
Now, when it comes to online dating and dating profiles, your pictures play a crucial role. One of the most important photos a woman must have on her profile is one where she’s smiling. That’s how much men value it. A genuine, radiant smile can instantly make you more appealing. And if you have beautiful teeth on top of that? Even better! Men are naturally drawn to these details.
So, develop a healthy routine to take care of your teeth. Brush regularly, floss daily, and visit the dentist consistently. If needed, consider investing in braces to straighten your teeth or a whitening procedure to enhance your smile. Some affluent individuals even go for full veneer replacements—but that’s quite extreme in my opinion. I always prioritize natural beauty, but ultimately, the choice is yours.
Also, choose a natural-looking lipstick that complements your skin tone without appearing artificial. A soft, flattering shade can enhance your smile even more and make you look effortlessly attractive.
2. Healthy, Shiny & Long Hair.
Evolutionary psychology explains the key things men instinctively notice first in women—and one of those is long, healthy, thick hair. Women who naturally have this trait tend to have a slight advantage because long, luscious hair is a subconscious signal of health and vitality. That’s why men are drawn to it—it quite literally catches their attention on an instinctive level.
Beautiful hair should be shiny, full of life, and have a natural bounce. If you’re lucky enough to have thick, healthy hair, make the most of it! Yes, maintaining long hair can sometimes be frustrating, but trust me, it’s worth the effort.
The majority of men instinctively prefer longer hair on women—as long as it’s within a certain length, usually no longer than elbow-length, because anything beyond that can feel excessive. So, develop a solid self-care routine: wash your hair regularly (every two days or so), use high-quality, natural shampoos, and find a hairstyle that complements your face shape, body, and personality.
Here’s a little pro tip: men are generally attracted to hair that looks natural. They tend to prefer natural shades over bold colors like pink or blue, and they often favor long hair over very short, boyish cuts.
If you don’t naturally have long or thick hair, don’t worry—extensions can be a great alternative. When done well and styled correctly, they can give the illusion of fuller, longer hair. Just be sure to keep it looking as natural as possible for the best effect.
3. Clear, Healthy-looking Skin.
Now, let’s talk about skin—because just like hair, it plays a crucial role in attraction. Healthy-looking skin is essential. It should be clear, free from acne, and well-maintained. Of course, we’re all human, and imperfections like wrinkles or occasional blemishes are completely normal. The goal isn’t to look picture-perfect—after all, no man actually wants that—but rather to present the best version of ourselves.
Glowing, healthy skin is a sign of overall well-being, and whether they realize it or not, men are naturally drawn to it. On a subconscious level, clear, radiant skin signals good health, which, from an evolutionary standpoint, indicates a strong potential partner for passing on their genes. At first impression, instincts take over—men are wired to seek out signs of vitality and fertility because, in terms of survival, choosing a healthy partner increases the chances of having healthy offspring.
Don’t blame the men. Don’t blame it on me. This isn’t about blaming men or overanalyzing their preferences—it’s simply human nature. Instead of fighting it, why not use this knowledge to your advantage? The good news is that skin health is something you can improve with the right care and investment. Just like any other aspect of self-care, achieving beautiful skin is within your control if you make it a priority.
4. Good Hygiene & Fresh Smell.
Moving on to number four, let’s talk about hygiene. This can be a sensitive and sometimes uncomfortable topic, but it’s essential. I’m not here to promote extreme thinking, but I do want you to reflect on it—are you maintaining an adequate level of hygiene, or are you being a bit lazy about it?
Men notice hygiene, especially when dating or becoming intimate. A woman may be beautiful, well-dressed, and put together, but if her hygiene isn’t up to standard, it can be an immediate deal-breaker. Some people, depending on their culture or personal preferences, are especially particular about cleanliness. For instance, in cultures like Japanese or Middle Eastern, hygiene is given extra attention.
It’s also important to be aware of our own body odors, breath, and overall freshness. The tricky thing is, we often don’t notice these details about ourselves. We get used to our natural scent, and sometimes, we don’t realize that our breath isn’t as fresh as we think, or that our hair may not be as clean-looking as we assume. However, others do notice, and these small things can make a big impact.
Scent plays a huge role in attraction—whether we realize it or not, we naturally gravitate toward people whose scent we find appealing. That’s why I don’t want you to be someone who invests so much in personal development, self-care, and appearance, only to overlook something as basic as hygiene.
Simple adjustments can make a world of difference. Carry mints or gum in your purse for fresh breath. Visit the hygienist every three months instead of just once a year. Wash your hair every two days if it tends to hold odors. Pay attention to your deodorant—if it’s not working well enough, switch to a more effective one. And, of course, shower daily—this should go without saying, but surprisingly, not everyone follows this basic rule.
Let me share a personal experience that truly shaped my perspective on hygiene and elegance.
During the early days of my self-improvement and financial independence journey, I was living in Paris with very little money. However, I was fascinated by elegance, refinement, and the lifestyle of sophisticated women. One day, I met a woman from a wealthy background who left a lasting impression on me.
As we greeted each other with the customary kisses on the cheek, I noticed her incredible fresh smell and aura around her. It wasn’t just her perfume; in fact, her fragrance was subtle, not overpowering. But everything about her smelled incredibly clean—her hair carried the scent of a luxurious shampoo, her skin had a delicate hint of body lotion, and her breath was minty fresh.
It was a perfect blend of scents—freshly washed hair, soft body care products, a touch of perfume, and oral freshness—all coming together seamlessly. That encounter inspired me to always pay attention to the little details because, in the end, they create the overall impression that stays with people long after you’ve left the room.
So, never underestimate the power of hygiene. It’s not just about being clean—it’s about embodying an aura of freshness and refinement that leaves a lasting impact.
5. Your Body.
Since we’re discussing more appearance-level aspects, let’s not forget that men are generally more visual than women. Their first impression of you will almost always be based on what they see, and one of the key things they will notice immediately is—your body.
I like to call it the “three B’s”—butt, breasts, and body. Some men are more drawn to breasts, some to the butt, and others focus on overall body shape. Each man has his own preference, but one thing is certain: they will take note.
In general, men tend to be attracted to women who are within a normal weight range. Of course, cultural preferences vary—some cultures prefer curvier figures, while others lean toward a more toned, slim physique. However, in the broader Western world, fitness and a balanced, healthy body are often seen as the most desirable.
This isn’t about changing the way men think—this is simply how attraction works. My goal is to be honest with you about reality so you can decide how to approach it. I hope you take this as motivation to maintain a healthy lifestyle rather than as something discouraging or that is hurting your feelings. We live in a society with certain unspoken rules, and if you want to succeed, playing smart within those rules can work to your advantage.
That being said, body preference is exactly that—a preference. You don’t need to obsess over changing your body to fit an unrealistic standard. Enlarging your bust or bottom just to appeal to a certain type of man is unnecessary. At the end of the day, confidence, personality, and other attractive qualities can make a man interested in you, even if your body type isn’t his usual preference.
Ultimately, the most important thing is maintaining a healthy body. Whether that means being curvy, slim, athletic, or somewhere in between, prioritizing health over unrealistic beauty standards is key. Don’t stress over measurements or weight too much—focus on being the best version of yourself. If making changes is something you truly want, then go for it! But do it for yourself, not just for external validation. Whatever path you choose, I’m here to support you.
6. Your Eyes.
I realize that this list has been very focused on visual aspects, and once again, I’m touching on another one—the eyes. Just like a smile, a woman’s eyes are something men instinctively notice. But unlike other features, your eyes are something you can truly use to your advantage.
If you want to create mystery and intrigue, you can do so with just a look. Maybe you have that soft, charming gaze—similar to Princess Diana’s—that draws people in with its warmth and innocence. Or perhaps you have striking, sultry cat-like eyes, like Angelina Jolie, that captivate in a completely different way.
There are so many ways that your eyes can hook a man before you even say a word. After all, they say the eyes are the window to the soul. And while we’ve talked a lot about physical traits today, the way you use your eyes can add depth, emotion, and allure beyond just appearance.
7. Confidence.
Finally, I’m stepping away from all the visual aspects we’ve discussed, because I need to highlight something far more powerful—confidence.
Confidence is one of the first things men notice in a woman. And no, I don’t mean being overly confident to the point of coming across as arrogant or overly dominant. That can sometimes exude a more masculine energy, which may not attract the type of partner you desire. But a certain level of confidence is essential.
The beauty of confidence is that it comes in many forms. It can be playful and provocative, soft and feminine, or graceful and poised—there’s no one-size-fits-all. The key is carrying yourself with assurance and ease. Whether a man spots you walking into a room, standing in a crowd, or simply holding yourself with good posture, how you present yourself speaks volumes.
Nothing is more off-putting than someone shrinking into themselves, appearing unsure, or seeming like they don’t belong. Instead, own your space. Be proud of who you are. Because confidence isn’t just attractive to men—it draws people in.
So, ladies, whatever transformation you’re working on, if you carry it with confidence, you’ll elevate everything. And trust me—that’s what truly makes you stand out.
Conclusion.
If you feel like there’s something missing from this list, drop your thoughts in the comments below! Let’s discuss—what have you heard men say about what they notice first in a woman?
We don’t want to rely only on our own assumptions; we want to hear real facts and experiences. So if you’ve got insights to share, let’s make this conversation even better. Leave your thoughts below!